Monday, December 3, 2018

Wake Up, America!: This Isn't Normal











By Richard Brody

Whether one agrees, or disagrees, with the politics, perspectives, opinions, point - of - view, or rhetoric, we are witnessing today, there should be, agreement, we're observing conditions, etc, which, we have not observed, in America, in recent memory! It may be world - conditions, the threat of terrorism, hatred, bigotry, prejudice, or other factors (including greed, and personal/ political agendas, and self - interest), but, there appears to be, little, to no attempt, to seek any common ground, meeting - of - the - minds, or bipartisan efforts! Our present President, often seems, to focus on slogans, and being popular with his base, core supporters, rather than all Americans. Several months ago, President Barack Obama, during a partisan, political speech, said, This isn't normal, and to this writer, that analysis seemed, not only accurate, but indicates, the potential threat, to our way of life!

1. The late comedian, George Carlin, after the atrocities, which occurred on September 11, 2001, warned of the potential dangers, of going too far, in reacting to these terrorist attacks, and, thus, abandoning, our commitment to protecting all our American freedoms. He proclaimed, if we do that, then, The terrorists win, because they would have achieved one of their primary objectives, of disrupting, and changing our mindsets. We must avoid taking the populist, simplistic, approaches, and pursue, well - considered, relevant, sustainable solutions, which simultaneously, make us safe, while being careful, to also, protect, all our freedoms, to all our citizens.

2. Regardless of one's opinion of President Donald J Trump, one should, and must recognize, he is a master at inspiring and motivating, those who feel, either neglected, oppressed, or resentful, by using rhetoric, which often, goes further, than merely, bordering on, vitriol! If we don't protect all of our freedoms, including those stated in the Constitution, or which, have become an essential component and expectation, we will eventually, begin to become unrecognizable, etc. What ever happened, to civility, and any attempt at compromise, bipartisan cooperation, and serving/ protecting all freedoms, instead of merely those, which are self - serving, etc?

3. The United States appears to be, more divided, than at any time, in recent memory. It seems to be, far beyond policy and/ or political differences, but, rather, an essential battle for the core, vision, and what America will stand for, and represent!

4. Traditionally, we have been the leaders of the free world, defending freedoms, etc, and human rights. Mr. Trump has referred to himself, as a Nationalist, which brings negative connotations, to many. He has often contradicted himself, and made it, more about dollars, and cents, than common sense, ethics and morality!

This isn't normal, because we are the United States of America, and we are being divided and polarized, rather than unified! Wake up, America, before it's too late! We've seen this before!

Richard has owned businesses, been a COO, CEO, Director of Development, consultant, professionally run events, consulted to thousands, conducted personal development seminars, and worked on political campaigns, for 4 decades. Rich has written three books and thousands of articles. Website: http://plan2lead.net and LIKE the Facebook page for common sense: http://facebook.com/commonsense4all

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Monday, January 29, 2018

Why Do Some People Stay In Touch With Their Ex

By Oliver JR Cooper









If one's relationship has just come to an end, they could decide to cut their ties and to move on with their life. As a result of this, they are not going to want to stay in touch with their ex.

One Step Back

Doing so could be seen as something that will stop them from being able to put the past firmly behind them. And, if one didn't really get on with the other person or if they simply grew apart, this is going to make perfect sense.

In this case, staying in touch would be similar to keeping a car that no longer works - it wouldn't make sense. Their time with the other person has come to an end and it will be in their best interest to let go.

A New Beginning

Now that their relationship has come to end, they can focus more of their energy and attention on other areas of their life. They may decide that they want to spend some time in their own company.

Through doing this, it will give them the opportunity to get back in touch with who they are. Alternatively, one might not need to do this, as they might already be only too aware of what their needs are.

External Feedback

The people in their life could understand why they no longer want to speak to the person they were with. If one wasn't in a relationship that was very healthy, they might be relieved that one is taking this approach.

They would have seen the amount of damage that this was doing to them, and they might have even encouraged them to walk away before. But even if their relationship wasn't unhealthy, they could still support their decision.

A Pattern

If one was to look back on their life, they may find that this is how they have always behaved. So, no matter what their relationships were like in the past, their behaviour would have been the same.

Then again, one might have held on in the past and came to see that this was not doing them any favours. Their change in behaviour will be the result of an experience or a number of experiences that had a big impact on them.

A Different Approach

But for every person who behaves in this way, there are going to be plenty of others who don't. When one can relate to this, they are not be able to just walk away; they will need to stay in touch with their ex.

Therefore, once one is no longer in a relationship with someone, they will still be part of their life. One is then not going to want to be too close to them, but they won't want them to be too far away either.

Two Experiences

If one was in a relationship that wasn't dysfunctional, it could be said that this kind of behaviour makes sense. But if they didn't get on, it can be a lot harder to comprehend what is going on.

When it comes to the former, they will probably respect each other and there will be all the positive experiences that they had together, and they might have mutual friends. Yet, when it comes to the latter, there is unlikely to be any respect between them and there will be all the negative experiences that they have shared.

One Factor

What one could find is that staying in touch with their ex makes it easier for them to handle how they feel. This person, as well as their others exes, could provide them with the support that they need to make up for their inner instability.

If they were with someone who was abusive, being this way is going to make it harder for them to cut their ties with someone who is not good for them. Their inner instability will cause them to hold on and it would have been one of the reasons why they ended up with someone like this to begin with.

Another Factor

One's emotions are going to be out of control and this will make it harder for them to be able to control their behaviour. But while someone who stays in touch with their ex could be emotionally out of control, they could also be emotionally dead.

When this takes place, it is not going to be a way for them to settle themselves down; it will be a way for them to gain resources. Having their ex in their life can allow them to have sex, gain money and receive other benefits.

Two Extremes

The person in the first example probably won't find it hard to empathise; whereas the person in the second example probably will. Empathy is vital when it comes to being able to treat other people as separate human beings, as opposed to objects that are there to be used.

Ergo, when one sees another person as an object that exists to fulfil their needs, it is going to be a challenge for them to realise that this person also has feelings and needs. And, if they were to get to a point where they no longer need them, they could discard them.

Awareness

If someone does use people, it is unlikely that they would feel the need to change their behaviour. On the other hand, if one feels emotionally unstable, they might look into what they can do to settle themselves down.

With that said, if someone can see that they stay in touch with their ex (or ex's) for the wrong reason, it might be a good idea for them to reach out for external support. This can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

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